I was going to let it be, really I promise I was. I wasn't going to talk about Dillhole anymore, even though it's still something that we're dealing with frequently around here, but then....
THEN...
THEN Daddy was accused (sort of) of being someone who doesn't follow the rules. Someone who crosses boundaries, a player that doesn't respect the limits. When it came down to it, this woman basically said that she was in subspace and Daddy crossed her hard limit of penetrating her (vaginally with penis) without wearing a condom.
I want to be sure everyone understands this here..she CONSENTED to have SEX with my husband, while I, Little One and Dillhole were in the room. The fact that the sexual act happened is NOT what she's claiming to be upset about, so when that's how the comments started turning, I was more than upset to say the least.
Did the incident happen? Yes. Daddy admits that he made a mistake. We're not interested in making excuses, it happened and it shouldn't have. However, the part that is most upsetting is that first of all, this woman was brought to our home by Dillhole. The night the incident took place was her very first encounter with Daddy, Little One and me, and there was NO NEGOTIATION. If she had negotiations laid out with Dillhole between the two of them then I (as well as Daddy and Little One) feel that it would have been Dillhole's responsibility to make sure that HARD LIMITS were not crossed.
I already posted a writing on my Fet account outlining the details of the event...anyone is welcome to go over there and have a look.
The day that the writing was posted I as well as Daddy emailed her asking her to please tell us what was going on, and attempting to rectify things. Later that day she was taken 'under protection' by someone we happened to consider a friend, and as soon as Daddy discovered that, he emailed said friend and asked what was going on. As of right now, neither of us have received a reply to our messages. From anyone.
I'm seriously angered that someone could make such an accusation about my Daddy as he's such a wonderful and caring person. Anyone that has met him in this community that has spent time with him knows what kind of a person he is, how much thought he puts into his words, and therefore his actions and knows that he would NEVER EVER cross a hard limit, AS LONG AS IT IS KNOWN TO HIM!!
Most of all I'm angry about all of this because she has gotten TONS of support from people regarding this matter...people angry for her being 'violated' and her 'trust being broken'.
There was NO trust to be broken, and it was a simple matter of a man that is fluid bonded with his current two long term partners, who made a mistake and slipped it in someone new before covering it up. I'm glad that she's receiving support, but when I publicly spoke about my RAPE < actual sex taking place with NO consent >(By the man SHE calls SIR!). I was basically told that I didn't do enough research on the person that I chose to let into my home, so it was my fault it happened.
This woman is being told by people that have NO idea what the real story is, that the person that did this to her should be banned from the community, when the person that raped me as well as a minimum of 3 other women is STILL working his way through the community, being a predator.
THEN...
THEN Daddy was accused (sort of) of being someone who doesn't follow the rules. Someone who crosses boundaries, a player that doesn't respect the limits. When it came down to it, this woman basically said that she was in subspace and Daddy crossed her hard limit of penetrating her (vaginally with penis) without wearing a condom.
I want to be sure everyone understands this here..she CONSENTED to have SEX with my husband, while I, Little One and Dillhole were in the room. The fact that the sexual act happened is NOT what she's claiming to be upset about, so when that's how the comments started turning, I was more than upset to say the least.
Did the incident happen? Yes. Daddy admits that he made a mistake. We're not interested in making excuses, it happened and it shouldn't have. However, the part that is most upsetting is that first of all, this woman was brought to our home by Dillhole. The night the incident took place was her very first encounter with Daddy, Little One and me, and there was NO NEGOTIATION. If she had negotiations laid out with Dillhole between the two of them then I (as well as Daddy and Little One) feel that it would have been Dillhole's responsibility to make sure that HARD LIMITS were not crossed.
I already posted a writing on my Fet account outlining the details of the event...anyone is welcome to go over there and have a look.
The day that the writing was posted I as well as Daddy emailed her asking her to please tell us what was going on, and attempting to rectify things. Later that day she was taken 'under protection' by someone we happened to consider a friend, and as soon as Daddy discovered that, he emailed said friend and asked what was going on. As of right now, neither of us have received a reply to our messages. From anyone.
I'm seriously angered that someone could make such an accusation about my Daddy as he's such a wonderful and caring person. Anyone that has met him in this community that has spent time with him knows what kind of a person he is, how much thought he puts into his words, and therefore his actions and knows that he would NEVER EVER cross a hard limit, AS LONG AS IT IS KNOWN TO HIM!!
Most of all I'm angry about all of this because she has gotten TONS of support from people regarding this matter...people angry for her being 'violated' and her 'trust being broken'.
There was NO trust to be broken, and it was a simple matter of a man that is fluid bonded with his current two long term partners, who made a mistake and slipped it in someone new before covering it up. I'm glad that she's receiving support, but when I publicly spoke about my RAPE < actual sex taking place with NO consent >(By the man SHE calls SIR!). I was basically told that I didn't do enough research on the person that I chose to let into my home, so it was my fault it happened.
This woman is being told by people that have NO idea what the real story is, that the person that did this to her should be banned from the community, when the person that raped me as well as a minimum of 3 other women is STILL working his way through the community, being a predator.
THERE IS SOMETHING VERY WRONG WITH THIS PICTURE!!!
I wanted to share her writing here, name and picture with-held for privacy reasons, even though this is a personal blog and anything can be shared here. I also wanted to share a few comments on the subject and answer some questions that some people have asked her but have also not gotten a response about...so here you go...
"The aftermath of"..wait..does this sound familiar to anyone? Perhaps, "The Aftermath of Dating a Dillhole"? Interesting how something that happened to someone so closely linked to the man that raped me is worded EXACTLY how I described a post of mine regarding him...isn't it?
"The aftermath of"..wait..does this sound familiar to anyone? Perhaps, "The Aftermath of Dating a Dillhole"? Interesting how something that happened to someone so closely linked to the man that raped me is worded EXACTLY how I described a post of mine regarding him...isn't it?
I touched on this a little a bit above...but I'd like to get a bit more into it now. I'm not saying that she doesn't have a right to feel like a line was crossed. She totally does, that was her limit, and it wasn't respected.
However..now is when we get into WHO was responsible. She said NOTHING to Daddy about ANY limits. Daddy had done nothing to her to put her into subspace, they were not engaging in a scene, but in sex, and sex alone.
So if she entered into subspace and wasn't able to communicate properly, if Daddy didn't put her there, and doesn't know her well (admittedly, it WAS a first meeting after all..) but Dillhole IS the one who put her in subspace, and is the one that KNOWS her, AND is the one that KNOWS the HARD LIMITS, then isn't it HIS responsibility to make sure that HIS PET is being taken care of?
Also, the part that discusses if the 'violator' and her have been in contact...YES. There were several emails back and forth in the days after the encounter where she seemed cheery, friendly and even flirty with Daddy, and I can't find the messages to prove it, but I recall a conversation about getting together and doing it again. Now...I didn't check with too many people about this, but *I* wouldn't talk to someone that way if I felt they violated me, and Little One said that she wouldn't either, so....I think things like the following comment are a LITTLE uncalled for...
However..now is when we get into WHO was responsible. She said NOTHING to Daddy about ANY limits. Daddy had done nothing to her to put her into subspace, they were not engaging in a scene, but in sex, and sex alone.
So if she entered into subspace and wasn't able to communicate properly, if Daddy didn't put her there, and doesn't know her well (admittedly, it WAS a first meeting after all..) but Dillhole IS the one who put her in subspace, and is the one that KNOWS her, AND is the one that KNOWS the HARD LIMITS, then isn't it HIS responsibility to make sure that HIS PET is being taken care of?
Also, the part that discusses if the 'violator' and her have been in contact...YES. There were several emails back and forth in the days after the encounter where she seemed cheery, friendly and even flirty with Daddy, and I can't find the messages to prove it, but I recall a conversation about getting together and doing it again. Now...I didn't check with too many people about this, but *I* wouldn't talk to someone that way if I felt they violated me, and Little One said that she wouldn't either, so....I think things like the following comment are a LITTLE uncalled for...
I just want to re-point out this point here in blue ^ the one across the bottom of the picture; it says
"Since he's married, has a girlfriend, and this was a one time thing involving a MISUNDERSTANDING..and he's NOT A RAPIST I don't think it will be happening again!"
Now, I know lots of rapists are married or have girlfriends...the point here is that it was a one night thing, and a mistake was made, he doesn't have a history of being a predator, in any way, shape, or form and since he spends all his free time at home with me (and our children) I have a pretty good feeling I know he's not out running around repeatedly committing this type of offence.
I'd also like to point out that we have been married for 6 years, together for 7 1/2 and have been mostly monogamous in this time. There have been a few women, but precautions were always taken, that's how I know this time was a mistake. Other than being fluid bonded with myself, he is also fluid bonded with our girlfriend, whom is proven disease free. So, the likelihood of him transferring and STI is HIGHLY unlikely.
HOWEVER, I have since breaking up with Dillhole been informed by an anonymous party that he may be carrying something, as Dillhole refused to wear condoms supposedly because his penis was too big, but I've seen them fit on bigger...I think really there were just some limp dick issues and condoms made them worse. Of course, his version of that during our break up was that he just didn't find me attractive..I'm sorry I respond during sex and don't lay there half asleep saying nothing. I know that's how you like your vict...I mean sexual partners...so I understand the limp dick.
I'd also like to point out the unlikeliness of a pregnancy, timing would have to be JUST right..again, I'm not saying it doesn't happen..just unlikely. Besides, there was NO CUM. NONE. Maybe a bit of pre-cum, and I know this CAN contain sperm, but it usually doesn't. So...I'm going to assume we're good on that front too.
Just to clear anything up!
I'm nice like that.
I'm watching my husband become physically ill over this matter. He's not sleeping, and he's lost his appetite, anyone that truly knows him, knows this is tearing him apart.
I just needed to say something. I (we) needed to have his side of the story out there. There's always three sides to every story...but by not allowing the other person to tell their side and casting judgement, that's how witch hunts are started!
"Since he's married, has a girlfriend, and this was a one time thing involving a MISUNDERSTANDING..and he's NOT A RAPIST I don't think it will be happening again!"
Now, I know lots of rapists are married or have girlfriends...the point here is that it was a one night thing, and a mistake was made, he doesn't have a history of being a predator, in any way, shape, or form and since he spends all his free time at home with me (and our children) I have a pretty good feeling I know he's not out running around repeatedly committing this type of offence.
I'd also like to point out that we have been married for 6 years, together for 7 1/2 and have been mostly monogamous in this time. There have been a few women, but precautions were always taken, that's how I know this time was a mistake. Other than being fluid bonded with myself, he is also fluid bonded with our girlfriend, whom is proven disease free. So, the likelihood of him transferring and STI is HIGHLY unlikely.
HOWEVER, I have since breaking up with Dillhole been informed by an anonymous party that he may be carrying something, as Dillhole refused to wear condoms supposedly because his penis was too big, but I've seen them fit on bigger...I think really there were just some limp dick issues and condoms made them worse. Of course, his version of that during our break up was that he just didn't find me attractive..I'm sorry I respond during sex and don't lay there half asleep saying nothing. I know that's how you like your vict...I mean sexual partners...so I understand the limp dick.
I'd also like to point out the unlikeliness of a pregnancy, timing would have to be JUST right..again, I'm not saying it doesn't happen..just unlikely. Besides, there was NO CUM. NONE. Maybe a bit of pre-cum, and I know this CAN contain sperm, but it usually doesn't. So...I'm going to assume we're good on that front too.
Just to clear anything up!
I'm nice like that.
I'm watching my husband become physically ill over this matter. He's not sleeping, and he's lost his appetite, anyone that truly knows him, knows this is tearing him apart.
I just needed to say something. I (we) needed to have his side of the story out there. There's always three sides to every story...but by not allowing the other person to tell their side and casting judgement, that's how witch hunts are started!
I would like to say, that if for some reason it is NOT my husband that is being accused of this violation, we only ask that someone communicate that to him/us and the matter will be left alone.
JUST BLOODY SAY SOMETHING ALREADY!!!
JUST BLOODY SAY SOMETHING ALREADY!!!
As Always
Much Love,
~*~ Kat ~*~
Much Love,
~*~ Kat ~*~